My daughter and I talked yesterday about her counselling. I am so grateful! That girl has been in so much pain in her life, and I had no way to address it. I had no options short of Love her and support her until she is ready to stand in her own truth and see her own life through her own eyes. Like much of my writing, here is the realization that it isn’t all about me! I am gifted with the view of this beautiful daughter of mine expanding beyond her own self-defined limitations and become something different. Transformed. Butterflied!
Our vision of ourselves is like clothing: we all go back to try on that favorite pair of jeans we wore so religiously. And we see they aren’t as comfortable or flattering as we thought. So we reach for the new yoga pants and carry on. If we are lucky, we don’t keep mending the old ones, trying to fit our newly expanded selves back into the old clothes we used to wear. I guess lucky is the wrong word. I have a choice today.
Old is not bad – Old habits, behaviors, thought patterns or opinions
New is not good – Perspectives, career choices, friends
Life is a blending of both. We try some on, wear it around the house and discard, we hang on to the good old sweater that still, to this day, keeps us warm, we try new color combinations and we make a new style that is ME. I am not the most recent cookie cutter version of a computer programmer grandmother RVer. I am Kathy who also happens to be a computer programmer grandmother and RVer. Do you see the difference? It is like a TShirt in a shop in Sedona.
{2 bears sitting at a table with a man in between them}
Bear one says “Let’s Eat BOB”
Bear two says “Let’s Eat, BOB”
“Commas save lives”
On the surface a very slight, subtle difference, yet it changes everything! All meaning is shifted. The picture is the same for either statement. I choose to use commas today. I choose the most loving, peaceful approach to all things in my life. I will look for the commas and use them with love. And I will be kind and gentle with myself when I miss a comma or misuse a comma or miss the lesson all together. Because each of us is divine and complete within and as ourselves.
As I told Shawn yesterday,
YOU ARE NOT BROKEN!
You WERE not broken.
We are each doing the best we can with the current information, and we are learning and evolving into new shapes and sizes and people.
Isn’t that what life is all about?